Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#249 Best of - Discipline, Punishment & Rewards with Dr Alfie Kohn

Topics discussed in this episode:

Punishment teaches power
Rewards, like punishments, can only get temporary compliance
The more you reward people for doing something, the more they tend to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward
All rewards are sugar coated control
Intrinsic & extrinsic motivation
Talk less, ask more
Kids learn to make good decisions by making decisions, not by being obedient
You can get mindless obedience in the short term if the reward is juicy enough or the punishment is awful enough.
What you can never get is a child who is happy, more ethical, more compassionate, caring or more of an independent thinker.

Learn more about Alfie Kohn and his book Punished by Rewards

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